By writing this post I’m definitely putting myself in the firing line of other people’s opinions whether they choose to comment them here or keep them to themselves people will think one way or another about this.
Since the age of 17/18 I have noticed that not a lot of people like me when they first meet me, Wether it’s people I have come to work with, boyfriends parents or aqaintences that could be potential friends. I seem to give of a certain vibe that makes people think a certain way about me.
Recently Iv been thinking about this and Iv come to a conclusion. I am always my authentic self. What I mean by that is that when ever I meet new people I am who I am that day, I don’t put on a front. If I have been at work all day and customers have been really shitty to me and all I want is my bed then that is the poppy you will meet. I am never rude ( that I know of) and I will always hold a conversation but I won’t put on the act of a happy go lucky, life is just wonderful girl. I will be tired and a little bit pissed off but still grateful to meet you I’ll just be a little less energetic and maybe a little less tolerant of small talk.
If people fancy giving me the benefit of the doubt after there first meeting me they will quickly learn that I don’t lie. I can count on one hand the amount of times Iv lied. I don’t pretend things are okay when there not and I don’t hide my happiness when Iv got something really good going on and if you ask for my advice the chances are it will be brutally honest. This is probably the second reason why people don’t like me. I must say though Iv gotten a lot more tact ful and gentle when it comes to the honest opinion and advice giving.
Then I realised that actually a lot of people that seem to not like me don’t like me for the simple reason that they don’t know me. I am not a person that is the easiest to befriend and I am not the kind of person that can be friends with everybody and be social no matter what is going on behind closed doors ( let’s face it my doors are never closed) and I can’t really deal with bullshit and small talk. I need to have real conversations with authentic real people and have eye contact and feel free to be who ever I fancy being that day. I know that’s a lot to take in when you first meet somebody but if you don’t give them a chance to see what they are really about then you will miss out.
The reason why my friends do like me
- I am fiercely loyal
- I will always give you my best advice when you ask for it
- I am too honest sometimes but it turns out it’s exactly what the people who choose to be in my life need
- I won’t pretend that I’m okay or that we are okay if we are not.
- I always give people more than one chance
- I am a great person to have a debate with
- I love my people with everything I have got
I didn’t write that list to toot my own horn but to put this into perspective for myself and for anybody else who feels like this. I am not the only one out there who is upfront and honest and feels like there is a lot of people that they come across that dislike them from the get go purely because they refuse to be something there not.
If you ask your self this question from time to time like i do think about the people who are in your life and why they are there and what you give them. Continue to be EXACTLY who you are and don’t apologise for it ( but don’t be rude then you need check yourself :))
I hope this has helped the people who are in my life that have only taken me at face value understand who I am and helped the other people out there like me know that it’s okay to be your true authentic honest self always!!